Douglas Jack Carder was born December 29, 1948, to Jack H. and Iva M. Carder in Basin, WY. As the only child of Jack and Iva, Doug made his way through elementary school with his best friend, Sherry Wilson, and his four-legged companion, Tuffy. After many years of working in Basin, Jack and Iva decided to relocate the family to Forsan, a small oil town in west Texas. It was there that he played football and ultimately graduated from high school. During his time in Forsan he met a young lady from the neighboring small town of Stanton, named Scherry Avery. Doug and Scherry began dating and over time fell in love. But, as fate would have it, in 1968 Doug would join the United States Army and deploy to fight in the Vietnam War. During his time of service as a US soldier, Doug earned many honors including multiple medals, such as National Defense Service, Vietnam Service, Army Commendation, Two Overseas Bars and an Expert Badge Rifle M-16. In addition, during his time in the Army, Doug married Scherry on March 15, 1968. They lived happily together as a Military couple and two weeks before being honorably discharged from the Army, Doug and Scherry gave birth to a son, Christian J. Carder on October 6, 1971, in Lowell, MA. After residing in Lowell, the couple moved their family of three back to Stanton, where Doug went to work in the oil field and attended Midland College, earning a degree in Petroleum Engineering. Then, on September 10, 1975, they welcomed their daughter, Misti Scharece Carder, to the family.
Doug and Scherry raised their children in a Godly home in Stanton for more than 15 years, until Scherry lost her two-year battle with cancer in February of 1988. Upon her death, Doug assumed the role of mother and father of their two kids, ages 12 and 16. He worked multiple jobs, from the oil field to selling insurance, anything to help make ends meet for his family. By the end of 1988, Doug had reunited with his elementary school sweetheart and destined soul-mate, Sherry Wilson Stephens. Sherry had moved to the Dallas area and Doug and Sherry rekindled their old flame, as he found true happiness again. Sherry had a teenage daughter, Rebecca L. Stephens, and they resided in Garland, Texas. In August of 1990, Chris left home for Texas Tech and Doug and Misti moved to Garland to be closer to Sherry and Rebecca. After several years of living in Garland, Doug and Sherry built a home together and relocated to Rowlett in 1993, and in June of 2002 they officially tied the knot in a small family wedding in Rebecca’s home. With three grown, married children, Doug and Sherry made a beautiful life together. They enjoyed living as one, and they loved being Grandma Sherry and Papa Doug, Grandpa Doug, G-Dad or the shortened version of just GP. Through the years they were blessed with four incredible grandchildren, Renee Hilton, Zachary Carder, Lyndsay Carder and Nathan Potter.
At the time, Doug worked for a couple of different wrecker services. He contracted with companies and he owned and operated his own truck. Doug also became a service writer for several auto shops and dealers in town, until January of 2008 when he was hired on as an Operator by the City of Dallas to work in the Water Treatment Plant in Sunnyvale. Doug enjoyed his position with the city, and the men and women he worked with. He took pride in his job, and in always being on time, working hard and giving 100%, so much so that he never took a sick day in 10 years.
In June of 2009, tragedy struck again and Doug lost Sherry to an unexpected brain aneurism. While her loss took a devasting toll on him and the entire family, Doug persevered and once again found the strength to move forward and find a path to happiness. In September of 2010, he became a grandpa again with the addition of Jackson Potter. With a renewed love for life and hope for brighter days, he took up big game hunting as his hobby and his love became a passion he shared with his children and grandchildren and anyone else who would sit and listen to his stories. Together they went on numerous hunts for all types of animals, and the time spent together was so much more than just a hunt, it was a time of family bonding around a firepit in the evenings or cleaning up a lease so everyone would have a place to sleep. It was a time filled with practical jokes, relentless sarcasm and some of the best conversations that solved all of the world’s problems. He also went on vacation every summer with his daughter’s family to his favorite beach in Gulf Shores, where he would sit and look out across the water and say, “I could stay here all day.”
He was at total peace with the life he was living. He took time to attend his grandkids’ activities, from sporting events to rodeos. Doug helped shape so many beautiful memories that will never be forgotten by those he loved and who loved him back. These were the best years yet. He spent the last ten years of his life doing what he loved. Laughing, joking, and finding the peace and joy of having his three children and their spouses, Karla, Alan and Tommy, his five grandchildren, a host of friends and his Starbucks Coffee gang surrounding him with love. And, on March 15, 2019, Douglas Jack Carder left this world the way we should all be so lucky to go, with a smile on his face and laughing.
A celebration of Doug’s life will be held 1:00pm, Tuesday, March 19, 2019, at Reflections at Rest Haven Funeral Home-Rockwall Location.